Survival Kit for the Holidays: Grace, Gratitude and Random Acts of Kindness

After a traumatic event, it can take months or years for the more symptoms like severe anxiety and depression to show up. Our bodies find ways to hold things together for awhile, then something happens like seeing a car that resembles the one that hit us. This is enough to send the body into overwhelm and we start having nightmares about the accident or become depressed without motivation to care for our family. By working with a therapist shortly after the traumatic event, you can greatly diminish or avoid these severe symptoms that could show up later.

It seems to me that the Chill(s) are universal when they are experienced. And religion does not seem to matter. Are the Chill(s) a gift to us all no matter what religion? and if so, what does that mean?

You never tell your date where you are going. You just tell her to wear comfortable shoes (e.g. NOT heels, as most girls that are on dates have a tendency to wear) and to 'look cute.' This adds to the mystery and builds anticipation. Women love the feeling of anticipation.

Children are not the only ones who suffer from ADD, many intelligent adults are struggling with this condition as well. Whilst it is nothing to be ashamed of, it is important that you seek help and treatment, as this can significantly improve your quality of life. Most sufferers are apt to hide their condition, and over time experience low self confidence and find that there is little meaning in their lives.

What could be better then waking to the sweet aroma of freshly baking bread wafting through your home on a cool autumn morning, what a treat for you and the family. There could not be a better way to start the day.

Your mind won’t stop thinking useless thoughts – as I’ve said, it’s how we’re built. But you can choose whether or not you will pay these thoughts any attention. After all, you have a very real alternative to listening to all that nonsense – you could choose to pay attention to the reality of the here and now. And, if that reality includes sitting through a boring meeting, you might just discover that paying more attention to what’s going on might make you more effective, happier and more productive – the things that most people want out of life.

- Gifts should not be about when, why or what I receive in exchange, if you simply find something (any silly trinket) that your better half would love, why not buy it? They'll be thrilled to know that you can actually pick something special for them and that you got it with absolutely no further interest other than to make them smile. This clears up the "how often" issue too, it should never be planned, spontaneity is the key here.

The other reason to abuse someone is because the abuser wants to motivate his victim to do something, to feel in a certain way, or to refrain from committing an act. This is functional abuse in that it helps the abuser to adapt to his environment and operate in it, however dysfunctionally.